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For Those Who Hold Everyone Else Together
The Grief Reset: Social Emotional Learning for the Church
by Dr. Marilyn Pendelton
Foreword by Pastor James Scott Jr. & Pastor Tara Scott
Grief is not only about death. It shows up in broken trust, changing relationships, church hurt, lost dreams, and the quiet weight of always being the strong one. The Grief Reset gives women, ministry leaders, and caregivers faith-rooted words and tools to name what they carry and begin to heal.
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Faith-rooted Social Emotional Learning · Private reflection · Safe conversations
Inside the book
What You’ll Learn
This book helps you name the losses no one talks about and gives you a gentle, honest path toward healing.
Name grief beyond death
Loss comes in many forms: a relationship, a role, your health, or your sense of safety. Learn to see grief you may have overlooked.
Understand the cost of silence
See how unspoken pain affects your body, your relationships, and your service, and why “I’m fine” is not a plan.
Face church hurt without losing faith
Make room for honest feelings about hurt in the church while holding on to God and to community.
Use SEL language to heal
Social emotional learning gives you simple words for feelings, needs, and boundaries, so hard talks feel safer.
Build healthier circles of care
Learn how ministries, families, and teams can walk with grieving people without rushing them.
Who it’s for
Written for the People Others Lean On
If you are the one who shows up for everyone else, this book is for you. It is also a tool for the leaders and groups who care for them.
- Women carrying heavy emotional weight
- Pastors and ministry leaders
- Women’s ministries and sister circles
- Educators and school leaders
- SEL and wellness professionals
- Counselors and social workers
- Parents and caregivers
- Community organizations
- Faith-based groups and book clubs
Why now
Why This Book Matters Now
Many people keep serving, teaching, and caring for others while their own grief goes unnamed. Over time, silence turns into burnout, distance, and hurt.
The Grief Reset invites churches and communities to slow down, tell the truth about loss, and become safe places to heal.
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For churches and ministries
Bring The Grief Reset to Your Church
This book was written to be read together. Use it for a women’s ministry study, a care team training, a staff retreat, or a small group.
Group copies
Order 10 or more copies at a special group price for your study group or ministry team.
Small group study guide
Get a free discussion guide that helps leaders open safe, honest conversations.
Workshop or visit
Invite Dr. Pendelton to lead a workshop or retreat session, or to speak to your congregation.
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A free companion to the book
Not Ready to Start the Book? Begin With a Private Reflection.
What Are You Still Carrying? is a free reflection guide from Dr. Pendelton. You do not have to share your story with anyone. It is a quiet space to notice what you have been holding.
- Gentle questions to name unspoken losses
- Space to reflect at your own pace
- Faith-rooted encouragement for the next step
About the author
Meet Dr. Marilyn Pendelton
Dr. Marilyn Pendelton is a registered nurse, a Doctor of Education, and a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® since 2008. As the founder of Your Voice Heard, she helps schools, workplaces, government agencies, and churches support people through loss.
Her work brings together faith, social emotional learning, and practical care, so that people can grieve honestly and heal in community.
Ready to Begin The Grief Reset?
Healing starts when we stop carrying grief alone. Take the first step for yourself, or bring this book to the people you serve.